The Tools

Sternberg's Triangle Theory of Love explores components that combine to create different love relationships. Learn the theory and apply it.

There’s a fine line between “confidently capable” and “defensively independent and rejecting.” Tips on accepting and requesting help.

You love your partner. Their friend, though, is the actual worst. Read on for tips on what to do when you hate your partner's friend.

Thinking you would benefit from cultivating a chosen family and wondering where to begin? Try these steps.

If you’ve been faking fine by claiming to be okay when, in truth, you feel like a hot mess, increase authenticity with these tips.

Teaches tips to stop avoiding emotional intimacy using the book DO TELL by Lindsay Lynch for psycho-education examples.

Identifying toxic people is challenging because their methods are manipulative & initially sympathetic. Watch out for these red flags.

Malcolm and Jess fell in love fast, married young, and for years projected perfection. To the outsider, they were Jess, a brilliant and...

In family roles, the family hero (responsible one) is rigidly perfectionistic and insecure. Here are tips to change those patterns.

People-pleasers prioritize others over themselves, leading to anxiety and weak relationships. Here are steps to stop people-pleasing.

Kind people experience less stress & isolation and increased self-esteem, belonging, & perspective. Here are some tips on how to be kind.

Tips to replace negative coping mechanisms (behaviors with awful long-term consequences) with positive coping skills.

Tips for challenging overgeneralizing, or viewing one negative event as a never-ending pattern.

Catastrophizing makes upsetting situations feel like disasters and causes people to over-respond. Here are tips for challenging it.

Discounting the positive is a cognitive distortion that leads people to reject their success. Here are tips for challenging it.

Brooke uses personalization, a cognitive distortion of excessive self-blame. Here are tips for challenging that thinking pattern.

Using all-or-nothing thinking, Greta thinks an imperfect concert will end her career. Here are tips for challenging cognitive distortions.

This post describes distorted automatic thoughts and provides tips to modify these thoughts for healthier responses.

It's Pride Month! This post, written by a loving ally for other allies, focuses on how to support someone when they come out to you.

Olivia experienced intimate partner violence for years before leaving, partly because of confusion. Here are red flags.